One of the most important events of puberty is you first period, as it marks your passage from childhood to adulthood. This is a very important moment in your life and will give you the opportunity to come closer with your mother. Her experience will help you face all these body changes you are experiencing lately.
It is perfectly reasonable to be anxious about how to tell her. After all your first period is very important. However it is perfectly normal and don’t forget that she has been in your place, so she surely can understand how you feel and help you more than anybody.
So how do you start the conversation with her?
- Just make the announcement! Having your period for the first time may be something new for you that makes you feel uncomfortable; however, it is something quite normal for your mother. So just take a deep breath and tell her “Mom… I got my period.” Not only will she be happy about it, but she will do everything in her power to make you feel comfortable!
- Try to open a conversation! Okay, maybe to “just tell her” is not quite easy. Understandable! And maybe the two of you sitting down to “talk like women” seems a bit strange. Another way, is to make her understand it by herself… you can, for example, start a conversation by saying something like: “Mom, when you were at my age were you stressed about your first period?”. She will certainly understand what you’re trying to tell her and she will be really happy!
- Leave her a note! If the above ways of starting a conversation with her sound very difficult, you can always leave her a note. You can write a letter about all your new emotions and thoughts or worries and place the envelope somewhere for her to see (e.g. her bedside table, on the bathroom shelf, in one of her drawers, etc.). This way she will find the appropriate time to start this conversation with you, and you won’t have to be stressed about it.
In collaboration with Dr Olga. E. Bikou, Obstetrician-Surgeon-Gynaecologist